Finding Strength in Each Other: Lin and Lynnie’s Journey

In May, Lin and Lynnie’s lives took a sudden turn when Lynnie, known for her artistic handwriting and love for flowers, started experiencing unusual symptoms. What began as minor difficulties with tasks like writing and opening pegs, quickly escalated into more serious concerns: speech difficulties and a weakened dominant hand. Despite the initial shock, they acted swiftly, seeing their GP, who referred them to Nelson Hospital for further neurological testing.

The news was heartbreaking. Lynnie was diagnosed with a glioblastoma that was both too large and too deep for surgery. However, the medical team decided to perform a biopsy to better understand the condition and provide a pathway for treatment. What followed was a whirlwind of hospital stays, consultations, and treatments—each step taken with strength and grace.

Throughout this time, Lynnie’s children, Stacey and Jarad, played a vital role in supporting her. Stacey flew from Christchurch to stay with Lin and Lynnie, becoming a steady presence in their lives. She was by their side in Nelson, accompanied them to Wellington, and continued supporting them through their time in Christchurch. “Stacey was our tower of strength,” Lin shared. “She kept us grounded, providing the emotional and physical support we needed at every stage.”

Jarad also came from afar, joining Lin and Lynnie on their trip to Cromwell, where Lynnie was able to fulfil a wish of visiting family before her radiation therapy began. Though the journey was daunting, Lin and Lynnie made the trip, spending cherished moments with Lynnie’s nephews, wives and family. This visit became one of many powerful reminders of the importance of family and the joy of connection, even in the face of adversity.

Lynnie’s strength and positivity continued to shine through during her radiation treatment, which included 15 sessions. Despite occasional setbacks, including a brief struggle with psychosis, the support from Lin, Stacey and the medical team helped Lynnie through each challenge.

Now living at The Wood Retirement Village, Lynnie is receiving ongoing care from the staff at the village with Nelson Tasman Hospice providing clinical support to the caregivers. The involvement of Hospice has brought immense comfort to both Lin and Lynnie, offering expertise in managing Lynnie’s symptoms and enhancing her quality of life. “Hospice is another level,” said Lin. “Their expertise in managing comfort and care is unparalleled. Knowing we have them to turn to has been a huge relief.”

Hospice’s role extends beyond medical care, supporting the emotional wellbeing of both Lynnie and Lin. “They’re there for us at every step, offering guidance, answering our questions, and just being present when we need them most,” Lin reflected. Whether it’s their triweekly visits at The Wood or the compassionate way they communicate, Hospice has become an essential part of their support system.

In addition to her family and friends, Lynnie finds happiness in small things that remind her of life’s simple pleasures. An avid creator, she has always loved making teddy bears and other soft toys. Op-shopping has been another hobby of hers, hunting for unique treasures and adding special finds to her collection. And, for many years, Lynnie was active in lawn bowls.

Lynnie, a vibrant spirit, has always been deeply connected to her home and garden. Her collection of 56 indoor plants became a symbol of her strength, with Lin diligently caring for each one in her absence. Together, they’ve created a haven filled with love, resilience, and the beauty of life’s simple pleasures. Even in her new surroundings at The Wood Retirement Village, with Lin by her side and the staff at The Wood and the team from Hospice ensuring she is comfortable and cared for, Lynnie focuses on the positive.

For over 45 years, Lin and Lynnie have stood by each other, through the highs and the lows. As Lynnie continues her battle, she remains hopeful and optimistic, holding on to her faith and cherishing the time spent with family and friends. Her journey is a testament to the power of love, perseverance, and the unwavering support of a community. They are both humbled and blessed with their family and friends for their love and support and visits to Lynnie at the Wood Retirement Village.

Lynnie died in November 2024 not long after the writing of this article. Lin told us that Lynnie passed away after showing great passion and spirit to live.